I felt as if I was rushed into it - but I was in love. Yet I felt guilty.
Cammy, 17

I felt cheap because I thought about what I did and I realized I wasn't ready for it.
Carla, 16

I felt strange and, in a sense, used. It was like we were both caring for the same person - him. I felt left out of it.
Elizabeth, 15

I felt angry, I had promised myself I would wait until I was married, but I did it anyway. Now it was too late. I had lost my virginity.
Alice, 15

I knew I had made the biggest mistake of my life. I felt stupid. I said I would never do it again, and I didn't.
Chandra, 14

I felt as if I had done something wrong. But aside from that, I felt stupid - ridiculous. I certainly didn't get any thrill out of it. It was embarrassing to say the least.
Eilene, 16

I worried, is he going to leave me? Did he go with me just to get what he wanted?
Anne, 19

I had mixed feelings. In a way, I thought I did it out of love, but then I was afraid I would get pregnant.
Kay, 16

I felt like God wasn't going to forgive me. I asked myself again and again, "Why on earth did you do it?"
Nancy, 17

You get bored. It's like a kid with a toy. When he first gets it, he spends all day with it. Then after he breaks it in, it's not fun anymore, so he finds another toy.
Reggie, 16

It's just like in the meat market. You just want to go out there and get some fresh meat.
Jim, 19

Sometimes that's the way love goes when sex comes into it. The sex is good, but only for that day. After that, you're finished.
Lewis, 16

After I have sex with a girl, I don't care if I see her anymore.
Jed, 15

After the first time we had sex, we stopped talking. She never called me and I never called her. I thought she was an easy catch because she gave me sex too quickly.
Winston, 15

At first I really liked her, but after I had sex with her, I saw she wasn't all I thought she was.
Antonio, 17

I fooled around with this girl after I knew her for only a few weeks, in the summer. I didn't feel a closeness to her so I just dropped her.
John, 16

After we had sex, she turned bitter and our relationship was poisoned.
Ivan, 18

I stopped seeing her because after that, she thought she owned me, and I couldn't endure it.
Lyron, 18

After I had sex with my girl of four months, she started acting strange - kind of stupid, so I dropped her.
Sean, 16

It always happens too fast. I never waited a long time for sex. Sometimes I wish a girl would say no and keep saying no. If we took it slow, we'd probably still be together.
Dean, 17

My boyfriend broke up with me three months after we had sex. I guess it was because there was no more suspense, nothing to think about, no more what-ifs. I felt horrible.
Fran, 16

I went out with a guy for a month and then had sex with him. After that he never called me again. I felt like a fool.
Sunny, 16

My boyfriend and I were alone in this place. We made love for the first time that day. It was really good. Three weeks later, he ended the relationship because he had another girl. I felt depressed about the fact that what we had that night didn't mean anything to him.
Marva, 18

My boyfriend and I had broken up, but he called and that night we made love for the first time. After that he said he "needed time to be alone." He was supposed to get back to me, but he never did. I felt used and betrayed. He had been my boyfriend for eleven months, and supposedly he loved me.
Rochelle, 15

Two days after I had sex with this guy he broke up with me. He said I was looking for a commitment and he wasn't. I wanted to kill him.
Donna, 16

A few days after I had sex with this guy he dropped me. I felt used.
Connie, 16

I went out with a guy for one week and had sex with him. After that, he wanted nothing to do with me. He dumped me. I guess he thought I was too easy. He didn't even think of me as a person. I was very disappointed because I thought sex was what he wanted from me - but it turned out not to be enough.
Rosa, 17

It was the second time I'd seen him since we met. The mood was there. He wanted to so I did it. But he didn't want to after that. I felt real easy and cheap, even though I'm really not. I just needed to be loved.
Coco, 17

I dropped him about a week after having sex because I despised him. He repulsed me because the sex was not based on love. He became a disgusting thought and sight. I didn't feel rejected but grossed out.
Barb, 15

After I had sex twice with him, it seemed he only wanted to hang out when no one would be home. After a while, we got in a fight because of his attitude and I broke up with him. I felt hurt and used but I still like him, and I would have gone back, but I realized what he wanted me back for, so I said "No." Too bad I had to learn the hard way.
Beth, 16

I dropped him because I felt that sex was the main factor in our relationship. There was no respect or communication.
Dawn, 16

I knew he didn't really care for me, so I dropped him before he dropped me. Jasmin, 15

You have special ties - a bond. You've given yourself to him completely, shared your body with him, satisfied his needs. You think there will always be a commitment from him and are angry and hurt when you see there is none.
Melissa, 17

The feelings you have for someone you had sex with are different from someone you didn't have sex with, because now that guy has a part of you that you will never get back.
Frieda, 15

You feel like you have an empty space in your stomach when he's gone and you feel closely connected with him, even if you don't love him.
Simone, 16

He told me he loved me and he would never leave me. When we broke up I was going to commit suicide. I thought no other guy would ever go with me.
Shannon, 17

Sex is not just a physical thing. It involves emotions - emotions that are hard to overcome once you break up. You feel as if he used you if you break up.
Beth, 16

If you break up with a guy you didn't have sex with, so what? You can walk away free. But if you break up with a guy you did have sex with, it stays on your mind. You worry over it in a haunting way.
Jackie, 15

The relationship immediately became more serious. We started acting more like parents towards each other. I found it harder to let her down when I wanted to break up.
Nicky, 18

She became attached to me and wanted to see me every night and got hurt and upset when I didn't want to, so we broke up. There were bad feelings on her part. I was glad to get out of it.
Dwayne, 18

The girl falls too deeply in love with you and you don't want to see her anymore.
Carmine, 16

Everything got very serious after sex. No more fun.
Cory, 17

She acted as if I should worship her just because she was having sex with me. I got disgusted with her.
Lucien, 19

We felt more committed to each other and we started to argue a lot more.
Fred, 15

After we had sex I thought I could do anything I wanted, and she would just be there for me, I was wrong.
Lionel, 17

Sex either makes a relationship grow stronger or die - but usually the relationship dies because you're not ready for that much of a commitment.
Paul, 17

Of course not. No one is going to hold a gun to your head and say "You have to do it with every boyfriend from now on." You have freedom of choice.
Debra, 18

No. There are some boys who think sex isn't everything. They feel there's more to life.
Jennifer, 17

No. Maybe the one you did it with was a mistake and now you've learned a lesson. Why make the same mistake twice?
Randie, 16

No. Not with all the diseases going around.
Diane, 15

No, but I do believe that once you've had sex, it makes it more tempting to do it the next time if the guy pressures you. But all you have to do is remember the end result and you'll be able to say a loud, clear NO.
Ruth-Ann, 16

You might feel guilty - like you gave it to one boy so why not give it to the next one? But there's no reason to feel that way. Your body is yours and nobody has any claims on it.
Caprice, 16

No. As a matter of fact, I think you can wait until you're married, and then you will feel like a virgin, even if you're not one.
Dana, 16

No, because if you do, you're going to end up winning a trophy for the biggest fool.
Shannon, 17

No. That's a bad rut to get stuck in. You should only have sex with a boyfriend you are both physically attracted to and deeply in love with. Even then, it's like opening a can of worms. I wouldn't advise it.
Simone, 16

Once you've lost your virginity, you can never get it back.
Tara, 15

Wait. If he says he likes you so much, yet he just wants to get his own way, no matter how you feel, that stinks. But it happens all the time.
Andrea, 18

It may be unrealistic, but if you have sex in relationships when you're not married you're taking the risk of having a very painful breakup because of the sexual ties.
Martha, 16

It sounds tacky, but I say wait until you're married. I know guys have more respect for virgins.
Sally, 17

Wait until you're married. Then when you have sex, it will mean something - that you're in love with your husband and want him to be the first.
Raquel, 17

There are a lot of guys who only want one thing, and after that, you're history.
Jennifer, 17

Guys are users and abusers. They just want to feed their pleasures and desires. They aren't concerned with your feelings at all.
Shannon, 17

Some boys say "If you love me, you'll have sex with me," and some girls believe that if they do it, they will keep him. But having sex with a guy doesn't make him stay, because when he's ready to take off, believe me, he'll take off anyway.
Judy, 14

If I had it to do over again, I would save my virginity until I was married.
Valerie, 18

Wait until you're married. Young men today are looking for young women who have not been used, abused, and accused.
Robert, 18

I know girls won't listen to this unless they're dedicated, but I advise them to wait until they're married...
Joey, 17

Wait until you're married. Most guys out there are users and you'll end up getting hurt, having a bad reputation, and more than likely, in the long run, being alone. Don't do it to make your boyfriend happy.
Hamilton, 18